after pregnancy weight loss tips hindi
Who here has a hard time getting their children ready in the morning?
[Im imagining every parent raising their hand, except that one annoyingly perfect parent whose children are ready 15 minutes early every day, whose children *never* fight, whose children never eat with their fingers, and whose children never joke incessantly about poop and pee and farts at the dinner table.*]
I have a certain 8-year-old girl (cough cough Zari cough) who has such a hard time getting ready in the morning. Shes easily distracted despite multiple warnings and reminders and timers and escalating consequences. All too often Im still pushing her out the door 1 minute before school starts. At school, shes a very good student, enjoys pleasing her teachers, and has no problem following directions. At home...its like I am the Invisible Woman and my words just pass right through her.
Heres advice from one Canadian mom I know. Im really interested in trying it out.
Two things work really well for us.
1) "Connect before you direct": We are wired to only take instruction from those we feel either a) emotionally connected to or b) fearful of. Since your daughter probably doesnt fear you (this is a good thing), she needs to feel connected to you, and that feeling of connection is pretty short-lived. I find I have to "collect" my kids All.Day.Long but when I do, things are much smoother.
Instead of basically pulling teeth to try and get my oldest to put on clothes, we spend a little bit of time on his level, reading, singing, listening to him tell me a story, cuddling, etc. Only after he feels "filled up," I will give him instruction ("I really loved reading this book with you. Id like to do that again. Right now we need to put on our socks and shoes and get out the door. Please get a pair of socks and your shoes.")
I seriously think this is a parenting secret weapon. It works. Like, seriously.
Instead of trying to convince her to get out of bed in the morning when shes lying there, try climbing in with her and talking for a few minutes about how she slept, what activities will happen throughout the
day, if she had any dreams in her sleep, etc.
After youve filled her love tank, give her instructions on what to do next and go from there. It sounds like a lot of time and energy but I seriously find this takes soooooo much less time than trying to basically pull teeth to get my eldest to do things.
The concept for "connect before you direct" comes from Gordon Neufelds book Hold On To Your Kids.
2) Routine Charts. I dont really like to add rewards or incentives to these because I dont think they work, but especially for visual kids, having something they can look and some sort of physical marker of being "finished" can be really helpful.
Dont you love that routine chart? Now I have to make one for each of the kids!
So please help me oh wise women (and men) of the internet.
We scrape by most mornings because we live 1 minute away from school. Next year, when were back in the States, school starts earlier and each child goes to a different school (some several kilometers away) and I teach an 8 am MWF class. HOW are we going to get everyone out the door on time?
* We have a rule: bathroom words have to stay in the bathroom. If the kids want to talk about pee or poop or make fart noises, they can do it all they want--as long as theyre in the bathroom.
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After youve filled her love tank, give her instructions on what to do next and go from there. It sounds like a lot of time and energy but I seriously find this takes soooooo much less time than trying to basically pull teeth to get my eldest to do things.
The concept for "connect before you direct" comes from Gordon Neufelds book Hold On To Your Kids.
2) Routine Charts. I dont really like to add rewards or incentives to these because I dont think they work, but especially for visual kids, having something they can look and some sort of physical marker of being "finished" can be really helpful.
Dont you love that routine chart? Now I have to make one for each of the kids!
So please help me oh wise women (and men) of the internet.
We scrape by most mornings because we live 1 minute away from school. Next year, when were back in the States, school starts earlier and each child goes to a different school (some several kilometers away) and I teach an 8 am MWF class. HOW are we going to get everyone out the door on time?
* We have a rule: bathroom words have to stay in the bathroom. If the kids want to talk about pee or poop or make fart noises, they can do it all they want--as long as theyre in the bathroom.
Do you find information about after pregnancy weight loss tips hindi are you looking for? If not, below may help you find more information about the after pregnancy weight loss tips hindi. Thank you for visiting, have a great day.
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